Poly 101 Resources

Top Resources

The Ethical Slut – The “Poly Bible”, an excellent book on ethical non-monogamy.
Kimchi Cuddles – A web-comic that presents Poly concepts in cute, bite-sized packages.
Polyamory Weekly Podcast – A great Poly-Podcast with over 550 episodes and counting.

The Ethical Slut – A Practical Guide to Polyamory & Open Relationships
Designer Relationships – A Guide to Happy Monogamy & Positive Polyamory
More Than Two – A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
Opening Up – A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Sex at Dawn – (This book has been criticized by Anthropologists, Human Behaviorists, Psychologists, etc. for selective and inaccurate research. Read with a grain of salt!)
The Jealousy Workbook – Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships
Braving the Wilderness – The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
The Game Changer – A personal bio written by the author of More Than Two
Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory
The Polyamorists Next Door – Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families
Love In Abundance – A Counselor’s Guide to Open Relationships

Shan BOODY – Sexologist, Youtuber
Dr. Hazel Grace Yates – Sexologist, Sex Educator
Sincerely Sky Coaching – Poly-friendly Relationship Coach
Loving More – A Poly-oriented non-profit that has been around since the early 90s.

Thank you to community member A.B. for providing these AWESOME texts for rejecting someone gently and kindly. Feel free to use these as they are or edit them to match your normal style of communication.
(After a first date): Thank you so much for your time today. It was nice to get to meet you and talk. You have a great smile and eyes and are all sorts of cute. Unfortunately, I didn’t really feel a connection that I’m usually looking for and I’m not interested in planning another date.
(When things fizzle and it’s okay): I’ve been thinking lately about where I spend my time. We seem to have fizzled kind of naturally and I think that’s okay. I wanted to let you know that I’m not interested in planning any more dates. I’ve enjoyed time with you, but don’t see it going anywhere. Please let me how if you’d like to talk about this, otherwise no response is fine. Good luck with everything!